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Donald R. Gavagan: 'I Am Here for You'

 

DonaldOut by their vacation house in Montauk, Donald R. Gavagan loved to go out in his Jeep for a spin by the sea. So did his 3-year-old twins, Donald and Lara, who imitated their father by scooting around in their own little motorized jeeps.

There is a new addition to the Gavagan family, Connor, who was born 52 days after the death of his father, a bond broker at Cantor Fitzgerald, and will be christened today. Mr. Gavagan's wife, Jacqueline, is not sure when she will be ready to return to their Long Island getaway. But she cherishes the photo she took of her husband and their children the weekend before Sept. 11: On a foggy beach, in the soft morning light, the twins sitting and watching their father cast his line in the surf.

Then there are the boxes of poems Mrs. Gavagan found as she was going through her husband's personal effects. Mr. Gavagan, 35, had a college degree in pharmacy and a career in finance, but he wrote poetry as well -- while helping care for their small children, working long hours and renovating their new house.

One poem read:

When life's trials overwhelm you and all you have is tears,

Please remember I am here for you now and for many years.

If you ever should need me when you want to run and hide,

Know I will be waiting and standing right by your side.

"It is almost," his wife said, "as though it was his last message to me."

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From "Profiles in Grief" of The New York Times  

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